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Through reading this blog, I see there is greater diversity than what I grew up with, but suffice it to say, I left many years ago because I wanted to be more than the cultural norm of the city could accept. Attitude less welcoming than in LA. And since everything is so spread out, it can be harder to find your place. You meet new people and do new things that change your perspective about San Francisco every day.
No self respecting techie has had one of those since the iPhone debuted in The best simple answer is rent control. If the avg unit household is 2. Given the large amount of replies, I doubt you will even get to this one, but let me say: I dislike your articles headlines. I say this only because I did not take the time to read your entire article. Ummm, lets see what we learned from your writing: I just moved here from Boston in August, and I think most of what you said is accurate and the advice is pretty good.
Always enjoy reading newbie comments about our City. Are you simply following employment or is where you live important and a part of defining who you are? Living is an art and takes work; I have been in San Francisco for 43 years, taught public school and never made a lot of money, but have a comfortable life in a condo with equity near Mission Dolores with my wonderful husband. Public transport, creative shopping and being street savy make it a joy to still be here at age seventy.
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Super Awesome Article — it put a smile on my face and really made my day… moved to the San Francisco Bay Area just a little over years and am really impressed with the spot-on accuracy of this article. Well done and kudos. Ive lived here for 7 years. I dont work in tech and make about 2, Cost of living doesnt have to be high to live a really comfortable life in the city. But in order to do this you must be really really good at networking. That is one of the most important skills to live areally good life in SF. I have all kinds of access to aptartments all over the city. The kind that kick ass with quaint cool features that havnt seen craigslist for years and are not expesive because they are rent controlled.
But in order to find your self on a position of choice like this you have to treat socializing like a job and dont expect it to happen overnight and be really good at connecting people with others. Dont protect your contacts share them. The biggest difference between manhattan and sf is the KIND of competition that exsists. In ny the competition is hostile and selfish. In sf the competition is about being bold with your skills and how much better can you augment other peoples lives. Help them and they will help you. If you try to undermine people to get ahead here you wont last.
I thoroughly enjoyed it. People prefer to dress comfortably — wearing layers as you point out. Primarily the reason for that was the painfully obvious and entrenched attitudes of so many of the middle and upper-middle class residents there. I almost forgive you for the plethora of elitist, priveleged views and observations you listed, but actually not quite.
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This city prides itself on welcoming and accepting folks from ALL socio-economic backgrounds, and is non-judmental by and large toward folks that do not have the appearance you might prefer as a Bostonian; this city is a haven for those coming here for a better life and better opportunities in one of the most broad-minded cities in the country. San Francisco supports struggling folks in ways that other cities do not, because it has always been a city that believes in people achieving their own personal visions regardless of national background, race, economic status, sexuality or clothing style.
As one example, we were the first place in the country that allowed gay marriage. So you can take all your horseshit stereotypes about Bostonians and shove them right up your ass. I do notice there are quite a few privileged, well educated many east coasters transplants that do carry a certain elitist and entitled attitude in SF. I make it a point to call these people out.
Do not let technology detach you from reality. If the census statistics and the Obama election results have not demonstrated the direction our country, our world, is heading then you are in trouble. The more I read, the more I bit my tongue and tried to press onward, foolishly hoping that the next comment would be a substantive response to your blog post in which you invited readers who already live in San Francisco to leave a comment addressing any subject you missed — an invitation that most commenters hastily ignored as they rushed to fashion a critical response more biting than the one before.
The odds of one versus the other are a coin flip. Overlooking a few generalizations, it was a reasonably accurate impression of our city. I appreciate the breath of fresh air and grounded response amidst a sea of strong opinions both ways. I had no idea half a million people were going to read this nor that the comments would get so wild. Thanks for sharing your perspective, Jason. Congrats on being pressed! A great city to visit and eat in but after living in beautiful,green,safe,cheap,friendly Portland,Oregon SF is a scum pit.
Seems like folks are getting confused a bit: I used to play the same game living in SOMA, especially on those long walks to the court house while reporting for jury duty…because SF calls you to serve every year. I can fully fund my retirement accounts and save up a proper emergency fund 2.
I have a quaint one bedroom apartment with a REAL separate bedroom to myself. Still, I miss SF, I miss walking out my door to meet friends for brunch, meeting up for a run to the ballpark or the Golden Gate Bridge, enjoying the building decorations during the holidays, going to the museums, frequenting the art shows, and for many, many more reasons. This article was a very fun read, delightfully included some infographics on rent which I enjoyed, and really captured some of the glaring impressions available in this wonderful city by the bay.
Great article but one personal thing that irks me is that the TL gets suuuuch a bad rap. If you follow these steps you are in a central area of the city with tons of access to more fun, family friendly neighborhoods. Also rent is cheap and there are some secret hidden gems as far as apartment buildings go. Worth checking out in the desperate search for an apt. Overall your article is very acurate, fun and enlightening. It will be shared with prospective SF citizens!
For someone who avoids the Tenderloin at all costs, how can you pass such resolute judgement?? You clearly know nothing about the Loin. As a petite female who has lived alone in the TL for 2 years, I have never once felt in danger of being hurt or mugged or anything else crime related. And I walk through all those streets within your dotted lines constantly and usually alone or at night. Super convenient location and easy to get around to the rest of the city. Fantastic bars and restaurants. And a lot of fucking history; maybe read about it some time. All that said, the residents of the Tenderloin are overjoyed that people like you are avoiding our hidden gem.
I had no problem going back to visit my favorite TL spots after I moved to the Mission.
Beautiful drag bars around the TL, and Lahore Karahi, yum. And, really, once the people who hang out on the streets know that you live in the neighborhood, they will greet you daily, and watch out for you. A fave of mine was the Flava Flav lookalike! I wish I knew his name. He used to stop traffic for me. He wears the clock around his neck, and gold fronts. Plus, TL is super close to Chinatown and the theater district. The worst thing that ever happened to me in the TL was the day I rounded the corner and saw that someone had committed suicide by laying his head beneath the tire of the 19 Polk.
What a great article. I moved here many moons ago Maybe 79 I dated now husband a guy born and raised in The City his father borned and raised in City All his friends were native so it was especially fun to go places then and cab drivers to Waiter were amazed that the table was all natives except for me.
The City they grew up in was small and family orientated. Everyone knew each other famlies. It was three degrees at most of seperation. Music was the thing for them. My husband saw every major musican and most for free. We own rentals in the city which is a story in it self but our tenants in the past were 35 and up and would stay for 20 years. Now all tenants are rich 20 somethings… and move yearly. Welcome to the City. Thanks for your insight. Hide your maps, ask locals for directions, they never lie. Flip flops are for the beach not street. I moved to the city 2 years ago.
I came from Germany with my family and stayed a couple of weeks in Noe Valley like you mentioned it. Some of them less, some more. Anyway, great write up! The more activity that is going on, such as concerts, movies, dining out, etc. Be street smart, keep your eyes open, and use some common sense and you will be fine. I moved to SF from Ohio a year and a half ago. Again, I agree with every word you said.
I tell everyone back home about the dog-friendliness of SF. I met my other half at How Weird festival almost 3 years ago. Lots of peeps here looking for love, in my experience. I think guys definitely have an advantage here for there are a lot of available, beautiful women in the Bay area waiting for right guy. Generally speaking, the bar is the wrong place to look for a mate, in any city.
Moved to LA for 6 months and made 1 meaningful friendship with my neighbor. So I moved back to SF. Just found the general vibe there extremely superficial. Flying Lotus is from L. A…i dont know where you lived in L. Fantastic article; you completely captured the essence of this amazing city.
The San Francisco Giants sell out almost every game and have the best attendance in baseball. The niners have one of the best followings in sports, as do the Raiders. Maybe in your circle. This article could easily be describing Chicago. Although Chicago is a bit colder and surrounded by nothing cool, its 10x cheaper. As a native San Franciscan born and raised and now having passed the half century mark my advise is….
No other place like San Francisco. On the map of the Tenderloin…I would extend that dotted line south of Market street, and have it go from 7th st to 5th st, and down to Howard. People in SF are scared of Oakland and will not go there unless they have to. And if you live in Oakland like I do, and tell someone in SF you live there, they look at you with a since of pity. The rest of the city is no more dangerous than any other large city in the US. Social life in SF is weird. One other thing…if cultural and ethnic diversity is important you you, you will not like San Francisco.
I lived in the Mission while in the city. Oh, and you forgot to mention that if you call it Frisco or San Fran we will set you straight. And not in a polite way. Jason, I love that this is getting so much traction around SF.. Just kidding, that is my one way commute into NYC on the daily. Funny you mentioned the 3 hour time difference for sports broadcasts and not being able to adjust to it. And I always think how late the east coasters have to stay up to watch the game.
Close, but no cigar. I was born and raised here 50 years ago and am living in the Sunset in the house I grew up in. I work from home so I see things others miss. I lived in the Mission for 6 years and that was long before there was anything called a hipster around. Spot on about the neighborhoods. They define the people who live there because the people who moved there wanted to be around their own people.
You always had to go to the Mission to get Mexican food. Food, you missed something. The farther west you go the food gets cheaper, the people are hipper without dressing funny and only idiots shop at Whole Foods. While we have lots of techies, they still need other stuff to live here than Tech. This article is a great start to getting to know SF. My favorite comment so far is from John Weatherman 43 years ought to buy you some knowledge.
Obviously judging by the comments people feel pretty strongly about San Francisco one way or another. Last year I lived in San Francisco for 6 months in the Castro…. Wow — what a complete change of scenery and culture. After actually meeting people and getting my social circle I began to see the city open up for me.
The Castro is a seriously cool place and was not mentioned much in the article. The gay community is one of the top things that set San Francisco apart in my opinion. My fav things about San Francisco: A city that is apx. Nightlife in the Castro, gay or not. The Ferry Building and the most delicious seafood ever besides Japan. The food and drinks at Absinthe. The diversity and culture. I could go on, and on, and on. BTW — always have a jacket and learn to dress warm. Wool is your friend — and so are scarves. Appreciate those gorgeous sunny days when the fogs burns off and you get to run around the city without a jacket while walking your dog.
The best piece of advice I can give to new transplants is to chill out and develop a bit of aloofness. There is so much going on in this city that you have to make an effort not to let it become overwhelming. And soon you realize. Too many financial assholes from the East Coast and SoCal already. As a native, remember when you move here where you come from.
Being an SF native, hearing people say they are from San Francisco, with a thick Bostonian accent gets on out nerves. Also, its The City or San Francisco. But that is it.
Extremes section should include political extremes. Beyond SF should include going past the hills in the summer to escape the cold and sit pool side in comfort!! People here take their liberal politics WAY too personally. I completely agree with pretty much everything written here. Also important to note, BART shuts down at midnight. That blows and would be blasphemous in NY. Half of the buses require you to step down into the steps to get the back door to open. I spent 3 years across from Pac Bell and would move back in a heartbeat.
Some of these opinions are accurate and make me smile, but who cares what this resident thinks? Two tips; we love sfcityguides. We have learned so much and had a blast doing it. Reblogged this on Alexander's blog and commented: Complete truth about SF. Dating here could use some work. As a guy, I found a lot of cool women, but way too many were stuck up for no good reason.
And women, please stop dressing like boys! Jeans and sweatshirts are not hot, at all. Standards here for dressing and looking nice are loooowwwww,,, I think warmer weather would help, but one can still look good without a sundress. Going to the wrong places? Walk down the street — look around! And I should have added that men have similar responsibilities to look presentable and stylish.
Everyone — step it up! After 15 years here, all I can say is that I wish there were a better place for high tech than Bay Area, San Francisco specifically. Your football day starts at breakfast and ends just after dinner. You can catch every game without having to stay up past 11pm. This is a great thread. I used to live in SF for 4 years for med school.
Met plenty of Stanford grads that are swell people. There may be a couple hot chicks in the Marina but is that really SF? I liked Oakland way better when I first moved to the Bay Area because it was more real, more raw, and had more character. I moved out of SF in and am in residency in Texas. Racer 5 is really the shit in the East Bay, though. Palo Alto and Mountain View are not really that far away! I love living down here. I moved here from New York. If you love galleries, design studios, high fashion, and amazing shows be aware that SF which has good art and Opra has a fairly small and closed scene of cultural arts.
I went to school in Boston and recently left San Francisco after 3 years of living there. I literally burst out laughing when I saw the bike poster. I guess we get lumped in with Haight. Also, very true about the 3-hour time difference. I lived in China for 3 years, but I found the 3 hour time difference between the east and west coast much more difficult to mangage all my family is on the east coast and the company I was working for is based in NY. Loved every second of your post! Look forward to subscribing and reading more! I quibble with 1 thing. PBR is not the official drink of the city, not even remotely.
If you have a car and your residence only offers street parking, budget for at least 1 parking ticket per month. But if you think you can just get around on a bike, you better have monster leg muscles, because these hills are intense. People smoke weed all over the place all the time. For such a tolerant city, expressing strongly conservative points of view in the wrong venue could temporarily damage you socially or professionally. You will find people who agree with you no matter how unusual your opinion is.
And it only takes a few people here to make a difference or create change. You live in the most beautiful city in the richest nation on Earth. It is no coincidence that it is also a city of refugees. Some people who come here are running from something. Some people who come here are seeking something. Some people were born here and have uniquely valuable insight because of it. Everyone around you is lucky and blessed. You are lucky and blessed. After every single hard, weird, confusing, and unexpected day you will ever have here… Welcome Home.
I just moved to San Jose from Philly six months ago. Another point about living here is that random people will start conversations with you. People are much more guarded and unlikely to engage with strangers on the East Coast. An important fun fact the 38 line is the mostly widely used bus line out of all the bus lines in the US due to all the different 38 buses that are always in route. Welcome to the most beautiful city by the bay. That flip phone picture is from 7 years ago when Ritual still let you plug in laptops. When people had flip phones. Way before Jason moved to SF. And before I moved from SF to Irvine because the tech change the worldness made me need to go to school and read paper books again.
Emirates airlines has direct flights now to SF. Having just moved back to SF from Boston, I can honestly say the cost of living is not that distinct. I shop only locally Sunset, Chinatown, Cole Hardware… too. Word to the wise: Forgot a few things: Bart is a fast, efficient, and clean mode of transportation. Hunting for parking spaces is a sport.
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You will parallel park like a pro in no time. Bring your own bags when you shop. Learn which bins are for recycling, compost, and garbage. Be prepared to walk a lot. Watch out for bushman. Most of these are pretty true. Love the Divisadero being the fog line thing. But I take exception to the sports matters way less thing.
Look at the 49ers, and especially the Giants…people go absolutely insane over the Niners and Giants here, myself included with the giants. So if you're not a hill that does that, you're NOT in Pacific Heights, though you may well be paying twice as much as you should because your realtor fooled you into thinking that you were. You can find 20 people who will tell you you are — but that's because they're not from here — and the real estate agents started pulling this crapola aboutt 20 years ago…and they just keep moving the line further and further south.
Real estate agents have also, in the last 10 years or so, invented "central" Richmond and Sunset. Agents came up with "Central" because it sounded better than "outer" and again, they wanted to find a way to get more dough. No one ever called it "Dogpatch" until about 7 years ago because no one would admit to living there. But cities change, and someone found out that back in the last s, that area was called "Dogpatch" — voila.
And don't ever use "Tenderknob" — it's just too ridiculous for words. You want to speak like a moron, move to San Diego — we have far too many fools trying to sound cool and hip and "San Fran. Trust me, the various parts of the City were all named long ago. Their names are just fine — it gets more than a little irritating to have every year old who moves here decide that it's somehow their right and necessity to rename our neighborhoods, our city, as though they didn't exist before their arrival. If you want bagels the way you know them — MOVE. We have sun, wine, sourdough, cable cars, amazing views.
You want something else, leave and let someone who knows what they have here take your place. SF Giants have sold out the last home games and will sell out every game next year and for the forseeable future. Candlestick has never not been sold out for a 49ers regular season game as far as I know. Sorry to go on a vendetta…. Going to the Tenderloin at night is not a death sentence.
Head down to the Embarcadero on game day and then tell me if you still think watching sports matters a lot less. But I feel like figuring them out on your own kind of earns you your stripes. So welcome to the city by the bay! Give or take a few years in either direction, your love affair with the city will last for about fifteen years. Trust your girlfriend and give her reason to trust you. Trust should form the foundation of your relationship. This will allow you to create a more open relationship toward each other, as well as creating a very good understanding in what your mate wants, feels, and needs.
You can secure her trust in you by showing that you care and are concerned if she tells you something personal and important to her. Contribute equally to conversations. When you talk, try to seek some amount of balance in the flow of conversation. If you're too quiet, she may think you're losing interest in her. If you're too talkative, she may think you're self-obsessed or plain impolite. The same is true for relationships. They never succeed when they're one-sided. Obviously, there will be occasions when you do talk a lot such as when something exciting or important happens or when you retreat a bit such as when something bad happens.
On the whole, though, aim for a balance of conversation.
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Be a good listener. Instead of thinking about the next thing you want to say, or something else entirely, focus on listening to her. Think about what she is saying. Always seem interested and fully engaged in her presence. If your girlfriend is telling you about an important experience, make a mental note of it. If she's told you something twice before and you have no idea what she's talking about because you weren't really listening, she'll know and she won't be happy about it.
Learn to tell when something is bothering her even when she won't say it. What does her expression, her body language, or even the way she keeps twirling her hair tell you? If you and your girlfriend can't disagree without getting into a big fight or without one person immediately giving in to the needs of the other, then you have a problem. To be good at compromising, you should be able to talk about your needs and wants while understanding where your girlfriend is coming from, instead of ignoring her side of the story.
Sometimes, you and your girlfriend will have to give in to one another. That's okay, as long as you're taking turns. If she picks the movie for date night, for example, you should pick the dinner location and where to go for dessert afterward. Part of learning to compromise is using a calm, even voice when you have a disagreement. Never yell, swear, or under any circumstances, ever hit her, no matter how angry you become. Walk away for a while if you have to, and come back when you can talk rationally. You can show support by being available, listening attentively, and showing interest in the things she tells you.
When you spend time together, make an effort to be present and attentive to her needs. By being supportive, you'll help to strengthen the sense of security and reciprocity in the relationship. And if you support her goals and dreams, then she'll support yours in turn. If she's having a busy week or month, you should be there to help her out by doing small favors, like picking up lunch or giving her a ride to class, to make her days easier. If it means something to her, it should mean something to you.
It doesn't matter that you wouldn't be interested in the issue if it weren't for her——a relationship is about sharing experiences and being supportive. When she's upset, try to put yourself in her shoes and understand where she's coming from. Don't just dismiss her feelings because you think it's "not that big of a deal. If you don't feel like you are genuinely sorry, try to change the way you think.
Think about things from her perspective. Sometimes, she may just want to cry and to be comforted. Don't try to fix her problems right away. Instead, wait for her to deal with all of her emotions before being practical. If she's upset, it's important to ask, "Do you want to talk about it? And if she's not ready to talk about it yet, don't pry. Method 1 Quiz Which of the following is the best example of a compromise? It is your birthday so you pick an activity to do with your girlfriend. You're unhappy that your girlfriend didn't talk to you all day, so you refuse to answer her texts.
Your girlfriend picks the restaurant, so you pick the movie. You let your girlfriend plan your day because you want her to do a favor for you later. Show your girlfriend that you love her by being affectionate. Small touches, hugs, a kiss, and maybe a little public display of affection PDA are just some of the ways of connecting through affection. Remember to read her signs, and if she's not in the mood, don't kiss her. Many times, even a light touch is appreciated. If your girl is a romantic, upon seeing her for the first time in a couple of days, say, "I missed you Or just kiss her hand by clasping and bringing it up to your lips.
If you're not sure how your girlfriend feels about public displays of affection, be discreet at first. Believe it or not, not every girl is into holding hands. Give her extra compliments when she makes extra efforts to look beautiful, but also make sure she knows she can relax and be herself with you.
Don't make her feel like she always has to look like a celestial being. You should let her know that she looks pretty whether she's spent an hour getting ready or if she's just woken up. Truly appreciating someone's looks isn't as superficial as it may seem, though. When you truly care about someone, she will look beautiful to you no matter the situation. When you feel this way about your girl, let her know. Splitting her creative time between branding projects, yet also fostering her interest in both digital and physical design, she has created a truly unique career for herself, not shying away from the opportunities offered by the road less travelled.
Narta believes that anyone is responsible for designing their own future and environment, so doing something about the things that need to be changed is what gets her out of the bed in the morning. Narta was nominated for Spotlight for outstanding contribution to the Factory Designers Circle, being one of the main support pillars for this community of practice. Professionally you could describe him as a social entrepreneur, corporate innovation and organisational development specialist, however that certainly waters down the variety of skills he navigates between freely.
He is interested in discovering the connection between mindsets and experiences and in helping others to improve their decision making processes through references and analogies, while not shying away from getting his hands dirty and just doing things that need to be done. While we are working away on hard-coded solutions, every act of support from our dear community matters! Britta is an inspiration when it comes to enthusiasm towards life, contagiously positive mindset and fresh perspective on the meaning of work in our lives, as well as getting the most out of a day - she routinely wakes up at 4.
She sees work as an important part of her life and instead of aspiring for a "work-life" balance, strives for work not feeling like work anymore. Britta draws a lot of motivation and inspiration from being surrounded by like-minded people, and especially at CODE, where she got to know so many talented, passionate and hard-working students. Britta believes that "nothing is better than a good laugh at least once a day", which is also why she appreciates the Factory atmosphere, where people are not taking themselves too seriously and are always up for a joke.
So if you need a lesson in lightheartedness, make sure to get to know this woman! Britta was nominated for Spotlight for being a true female role model and living the spirit of community. He is mostly working within the nonprofit world, especially human rights organisations and activists, in Europe and the Arab world.
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Mike is spotlighted as he lives our value of participation and community building by consulting both members and Factory Team on matters community and culture. This humble and positive Canadian will always find time to chat about nonprofits, languages, culture, yoga, meditation, traveling, and of course - Canada.
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Elsabeth is also passionate about travelling, discovering new places in Berlin and bringing different people together. Multi-skilled Dutchie indeed. Which works as a very powerful motivator! She gets a lot of joy out of bringing energy, insight and connection to the teams she is working with through a variety of creative exercises in her toolbox. The community at Factory is a pool of inspiration for Elsabeth, where she admits to constantly find interesting people to learn from and work with. And as she was nominated for Spotlight for being a master connector, Elsabeth makes sure to bring different people together herself as well.